"If you have pushed yourself to know more and do better you have placed yourself on the path to become exquisite. You don’t owe this cultivated self to just anyone who demands it. You have pushed yourself. You have read difficult books. You have gone without sleep. They have to at least match you before they can even begin to think of having you give them this energy. The best rule is that a person has to bench press at least 500 pounds and have read at least 100 pages of Proust to be worth you. Anything you give is exactly that, a gift and not a right. You don’t owe. You don’t owe. You don’t owe."
Dig Yourself (via howitzerliterarysociety)